Kygal,
We've had kingdoms come to us and say they will farm out to you if we don't cf them. When that happened, we let you fight them because you were adamant about ensuring we didn't get them first even while you complained about having to fight them now instead of later when you wanted to.
When kingdoms came to us and asked us to farm them before you could wave, we flat out told them "No, we don't play like that", and said they should do whatever they feel best for their kingdom vs you even if that was bad for us.
While you were fighting the kingdom you insisted on getting before us, we went after another kingdom. We noticed them but they let us know that us waving them would pretty much screw the rest of their age. We apologized but said we needed their land now and couldn't just leave them since if we left them then later others would get to them first. They agreed to let us know if anyone else noticed them if we held our wave. We got them first before you due to you calling "dibs" on our other target. You were busy, so we found a new target but then agreed to not hit them down for the time being since with no cf we could still hit them later if they were under threat. They already had one war after the time we would have smashed them and it's benefited their kingdom a lot. It didn't actually hurt your kingdom since had we smashed them while you were busy with SWEA, then they wouldn't have any land for you to be interested in anyway and we'd be well ahead of you.