I played this game a long time ago but forgot most of what I knew. I had been playing for a few days and talking to KD mates through chat for advice, and they were all very friendly. I mentioned that I couldn't spend my gold fast enough, and one of my KD mates, <removed>, told me how to fix it, and offered to hold on to some of it until I could spend it so that it wouldn't get stolen. I sent him most of my money, went to bed, and woke up to find that the monarch had destroyed my KD because he wanted more slots open for better players to join. Throughout this entire time, I was active, logging in a couple times daily to manage my province and read guides, this wasn't just clearing out an inactive member. They just couldn't stand to play with a new player and decided to scam me in the process.
I just wanted to post this in case any of you wondered why you never got any new players, now you know why.