I'm just curious here from a neutral position: what happened to 'giving a free wave and cf'? This used to be common sense if 2 kingdoms went to fight each other and one of these kingdoms simply wasn't ready to put up a fight.
Is this really the future; if you can't fight someone who has an advantage over you, do you really have to run off and fight someone who you have an advantage over yourself? I don't think running gets you anywhere though, since the other kingdom is probably just waiting for you anyway.
If you ask me, this should end. If you don't want to fight whoever waves/notices you, give them a free wave and move on.