I want to have some advice from the community about the following situation:

We messaged KD X for a war 2 days ago.
KD X reads the message, but does not respond.
We assume they're preparing something, so we wave them and give them the button in 2-3 hours time. At this time we were 6-7% bigger NW-wise.
KD X Monarch responds that he won't offer CF until he has 6 retal-hits in.
We respond that if he wants a CF he just has to take his losses.
KD X Monarch says that he will drag this hostile until EoA if we do not let them hit.
We respond that we will not accept the CF if they mass retal.
KD X makes 7 massacre attacks on one of our big halfers, we hit back.
Ever since we've been hitting into their KD incessantly.

Are we in the wrong here for feeding? The NW difference has grow now to 10-12%, but it wasn't as big when we started. We gave 8 hits for hostile button, stopped after that. If they don't want war, shouldn't they just take the hits and move on?