I would expect you to react in a normal way. Retal. Do you war wave every time a kingdom randoms you?
I'm not whining, I'm exposing lies and powerplays that are going on.
Also, I'm not monarchy, so I'm not able to send CFs. If I could though, I would not and not because I'm "not a man", but rather because a few kingdoms think they push their weight around and it's suddenly collapsing on top of them.