You can't really blame a competitive kingdom for wanting easy wars. If they start the age with a long and hard war with minimal gains while the competition gets two easy wars it's basically over for them already.
Blame the game mechanics or blame the ghetto for farming out. Btw. why is it bad to push the button just to teach a lesson? How else should a ghetto learn what not to do unless they see consequences for stupid actions?
Though possibly this is getting off topic since the issue here seems to be a multi with provs in both kingdoms. Or was it three kingdoms? I probably should reread the thread.