This is true, but more the game bumped into me than me bumping into Utopia.
We played Utopia near the beginning; my RPG party. None of us were in the same kingdom, but Bert was privy to trading. The first age I played I hopped to 3 different kingdoms to see different strategies. I was an elf.
My X wasn't my X yet, so I lost 10 years somewhere along the way. I rejoined Utopia when the wreckage was still smoking from the relationship, and joined seriously a bit afterward. Game came very naturally to me.
And to all you kids: the idea of "making it work" in hindsight is slow torture if making it doesn't work. I recommend a partner in crime as relationship goal. ;)