The history of my utopian life has been:

1. We go UF with bigger kingdom and get ops.
2. Ops force me to retaliate a kingdom I've otherwise no feelings toward.
3. Enemy kingdom goes UF with us and there's no ops from us.
4. ^ Emeny kingdom went UF vs me so I op and sabotage counter attack.
5. Enemy attacker gets poor results oping me so recruits an elf.
6. Enemy attacker gets poor results sabotaging me so recruits a halfer.
7. Suddenly I'm a bigger enemy focus than our province that caused UF.
8. My province gets razed and massacred.
9. My kingdom mates sneak away with acres and honor, lol.

So I'm use to being the turd target, regardless of race or personality. But knowing these things make for knowing what's effective in most situations. Yes, about 1000 times.