The way that I see it is as follows:
Pew Pew NOTICED Jerks, before any of this bs started.
Mr Curious came to me asking if we could war to avoid Pew Pew (which I have stated from the start I don't think is a problem, hiding from Kingdom A with a war with a better suited Kingdom B so it is not an all out farm out). We had zero notice clause with Jerks so that could have gone down), I however had just gotten out of hospital and was still light headed from strong pain meds so I suggested Mr Curious or Pendel or Celien talk to Cody and send him an in game message. I don't know the result of that due to said issues with hospital and I haven't been keeping up with it, however I'd assume Cody either was uncontactable or the end result was a sorry but we can't help you.

This part on is as assumption because I only read parts of the argument from all sides, but this is my personal opinion of events that happened thereafter:
Jerks didn't want to give free wave to Pew Pew (which they are in their rights to do), so Pew Pew were still going to wave them when notice expired.
AMA hit jerks before their own notice expired (need clarification on this please).
Pew Pew then did EXACTLY what AMA did to them and said, you run from us we will hit you anyway (Elit logic).
Is it right what Pew Pew did? No, but that is the SAME as it isn't right what Elit did. So do I have any sympathy for AMA? No.

Do I have sympathy for Jerks? Yeah a little, but I don't think they had the best diplomacy in this situation. Still, they basically ended up the meat between the sandwich, as Strippers have been many an occasion this age, so I do feel sorry for them being caught up in the middle of this, perhaps now they have a small taste of what we've felt all age.

A few questions remain:
Did Jerks approach AMA to let them know that Pew was going to take their acres and they would rather AMA have them?
Did AMA know of Pew Pew's notice and hit before Pew Pew, which is not a good way to "treat their allies", which is the reason they justified what they did to Strippers?