Account sitting is more of an advantage then white listing, it makes the 'company' more money though so I will refrain mentioning it.
The no interaction penalty (yes its a penalty no matter how you try to word it otherwise) is a sliding scale - 3 hours of no interaction is not a huge issue but 3 days is (especially in prolonged wars).
Going to see if I can get this correct .... there is a kingdom of players that are all from the same country. That country only has 3-4 IP addresses available. Does that mean in a war only 3 provinces will be able to interact with the same province? So they other 22 provinces have to ONLY attack/op one province each? No, this isn't a ficticious set up, its an actual one.