Man you are sure so n00b. Look for example this age. Our meter with sanctuary is constant under 5 for both kds, but we are in active action from few days. Sure its hostile for both kds.
Last age Spikey kd made massive AW run on one from our prov and cost him 0.5-1 raw wpa. Its clear hostile action and when i try in game diplo was ignored.
About Tivoly, we asked for war and don't get reply for few days. Your kd is not only kd we asked! Every other kd reply for less 12h. You sit in fort stance 4 days for pump and jump on us when we started hostile with another kd in range, not 60% smaller! Making random plunders is normal when you don't full wave. Every waring kd make it for get gold for his dragons.
p.s. We got not only WW bonus but land and honor.