You're obsessed lol! You still like us though ;D
It's not so much telling you what to do as it is countless hours other teammates have spent looking over stats, activity etc. to lay out the play as concise as they can for easy reading. Like you wouldnt argue the captain or the coach on the field is ordering you around when they're really just calling the play. it's actually a very prevalent concept in all team competition.
That's competitive though. No different than a game of pickup, if you're just here to play, stay away from recruitments for competitive slots, and youll find a good fit for yourself eventually :D have faith
-DM <3