Bananamancer2000 - good post and i understand your frustration, but while i feel extremely bad for many of your players, i will still stand by what i said earlier.

Panthira is no saint when it comes to playing hardball, and its ashamed it hits a whole KD, but many of your current players + Panthira DB and GB'd a KD for no reason other then dislike of a player and a misunderstanding (Also with said player), its fine to get mad but there is a thing called over doing it.

I know Panthira has said she felt bad about it and i accept that, I don't agree with whats being done to your kingdom as its always a shame when diplo breaks down and goes overboard.

I would say that its not a smart thing to threaten a KD in a much stronger position though (Yes i learned the hard way too, /me waves at CR, BB, Panda etc.) lol, by doing so you aren't giving them much insensitive to stop or come back to the negotiation table, I am sure with a decent mediator that both sides trust, it could be sorted to some extend where both KDs can move on (doesn't sound like CD wants to anymore, which is up to them), but it would be the best to swallow your pride and do whats needed to get a fair deal that doesn't include being below 50% of Sparta or any other ridiculous demands.