don't be a noob. Holding a hostile against a ghetto who is outside of declare range is not hostile. Otherwise any kd would just hostile a ghetto at start of age, tag hostile, then random all age? Figure it out. If you are hitting 2 different ghettos you clearly aren't concerned about either of them pressing button. CR players have hit into other kingdoms "hostiles" with ghettos as have RBL players. This is nothing new. If you got waved by a KD in your NW range and weren't prepared go fortified and send them a CF give them the free wave, or prepare for war if you're in okay shape.
What you need to do is diplo not some fail forums stunt.
I once waved simians who were "hostile" even though they had just given some ghetto button and then were randoming other kingdoms as well as hitting the "hostile" KD. If you are confident enough to random outside of your hostile it isn't a hostile. A shame rage shell has sunk to simians logic :( (only thing of note i think is that ama supported simians in the conflict from a morale perspective)